Love as a Product of a Separated Marriage

Growing up I was always the type of girl to dream big and imagine. At a young age I planned my sweet sixteen, my wedding and what I would name my children when I was old enough to have them. As I can imagine as a young black girl we all want to grow up and be loved like the love we see in our everyday households RIGHT? This wasn't always the case for myself.

At the age of eleven, I had seen so many things in life that an eleven year old shouldn't have. I watched my Mother have her first heart attack at the age of 8, I watched my first cousin pass at the age of six, I watched my parents fuss and fight for years. So many things that scarred me until this day. At the age of eleven, I remember packing my things and moving into my grandmother's house with my Mother and my six year old brother. Those of you know I am a daddy's girl so can you imagine how hard this was for me? My highlights of my nights were my daddy coming in late nights and him coming to get me out of bed to eat Taco Bell, or whatever he had picked up on his way home.

Moving into my grandmothers house after my parents had decided to separate was quite the change, but as always I evolved into my new life. Seeing my parents separate only made me stand more firm on wanting a lasting relationship for myself in the future. I mean my grandparents didn’t last, my parents separated and I definitely didn’t want that for myself. It was quiet difficult going from living with both parents to living with one and seeing my dad while picking me up from school and dropping me off to my grandmothers house. The positive thing was that my relationship never changed between my parents and I, and everywhere we went we still went as a family.

Growing up now, not much has changed but now there are so many failed marriages in my family that it’s hard to even want to speak about relationships to them because of course I don’t get much positive feedback, so I have really been on my own in the relationship department, Like at this point can Mindless Behavior come back and be my imaginary boyfriends again! Since getting into my relationship with my now boyfriend, it’s been difficult and it has seemed that in the almost four years that we have been together that we have had little to none support due to what others might have experienced from their previous relationship? Like why do people put their hurt and their experiences on your life and relationships? PLEASE GET TF! Because of this I am so determined to break a family and generational curse.

I will get married, my relationship will be solid. I won’t let others determine my fate based off of there's. As a product of a broken marriage, Love and life will flourish through me as long as I can control it. Ladies know what you WANT, know what you NEED. Know what LOVE LOOKS LIKE TO YOU. Never be ashamed or discouraged about who or why you love that person. We were to created to live for ourselves and be happy. Please always decide to live for YOU.

Until next time Peaches,

-Peach